Designer Baby Clothes For Less

Sandra asks…

Do they think their money makes them better than us?

My husbands best friend of 16 years is having a baby. They were earning more than us,(she is now too pregnant to work), and have always/ still live well beyond their means. They eat out regularly, rent an aunts house which they haven’t paid rent in 3 months, buy designer clothes for them & unborn, have spent $4000 on baby gear,(not including nursery gear)- despite being offered free stuff from a brother who had used his stuff on 1 baby & they just got a personal loan for $20,000- for a car, & a $2000 engagement ring. When we give them advice on how to save, get their own home, save money by buying good quality but less expensive baby items & clothes, buy 2nd hand goods- they brush it off. They say they want only “the best” and it makes me feel like they think we dont want the best for our child or they think their money makes them better than us. We are in a great situation- own home,car-no debt, and they are nearly $40,000 in debt. Should I ignore them & smile or say something?
They will tell us about their purchases and the cost of them. We are not nosey and never ask anything about money. We know they are in debt because he told my husband about it- and he was smiling about it???

Adam answers:

There is so much you can do. It is up to them, if they are willing to listen and put themselves into reality. They will never know, never mind appreciate your advice till hard times kick in, and only then they will start to blame each other. You could talk to your friend from time to time in a very friendly, no pushing manner about the consequence that might occur later down in the road. To me it sounds as if they have not have a real eye opening moment in their lives. To live carelessly such as brings pre-maturity, ignorance into their lives. They follow what they think they should follow, do not know what real happinness, and maturity mean. Something that is the “best” now, does not mean that it will serve as the “best” in long terms…. Definetly stand by your friend try to bring his attention what living to the fullest really mean.;-)

Wish could help you more.., I find most people do not listen to start with, till they experience something bad .., and then only then.., they will start to think and cry for help..
Good luck,
Buggy

Robert asks…

brothers wedding next year, i don’t want to go, what would you do?

im 15, my brother is 31. (different dads, same mum)
i see him about 5 imes a year, maybe less (he lives 15 mins walk / 5 mins drive away from my house)
and when i do see him, sometimes he cant even manage theword hello, so ignores me. when i see him i feel really awquard around him
he has a daughter, 1 n a half years old, dont see he either.
hes quite a stuck up and nasty person, racist, homophobic, obessed with looks – has to have designer clothing, his child (i personally think is a fashion acsessory, because his best friends had a baby together, and my bro has to be better than everone), his lady, tiny little blonde, had a boob job in november.. list goes on and on…

hes getting married next year, him n his lady have spent £13000 on the wedding already, going to be an over the top wedding. 7 bridesmaides… rings that cost £3000… food per person is £70…
not the sorta wedin id enjoy.
basically, i have no relationship with my brother, i dont like the person he is, and i dont think he likes me either, so i do not want to go to his wedding. but my family still think i should go, because hes family.

but for your weddng, arent you meant to invite people you care about? people who are important to you?

i hate the idea of going cause hes family, i should go cause i care about/love him, and he should invite me for them reasons too. me going would be so fake, as i know he wouldnt want me there.

my family reckon i need to go cause things will get difficult for my mum and him, but shouldnt he be grown up enough to realise that being funny with our mum cause we dont get on is silly and childish?

i dont know what to do for the best, what do you think i should do?
yeah – i got an invite, but i think only cause he had to invite me.

Adam answers:

You got an invite and he’s your brother you should go…
I hope I helped

Helen asks…

Brothers wedding next year? i don’t want to go, what do you think i should do?

why in this section? cause im a lesbian.

im 15, my brother is 31. (different dads, same mum)
i see him about 5 imes a year, maybe less (he lives 15 mins walk / 5 mins drive away from my house)
and when i do see him, sometimes he cant even manage the word hello, so ignores me. when i see him i feel really awquard around him
he has a daughter, 1 n a half years old, dont see he either.
hes quite a stuck up and nasty person, racist, homophobic, obessed with looks – has to have designer clothing, his child (i personally think is a fashion acsessory, because his best friends had a baby together, and my bro has to be better than everone), his lady, tiny little blonde, had a boob job in november.. list goes on and on…

hes getting married next year, him n his lady have spent £13000 on the wedding already, going to be an over the top wedding. 7 bridesmaides… rings that cost £3000… food per person is £70…
not the sorta wedin id enjoy.
basically, i have no relationship with my brother, i dont like the person he is, and i dont think he likes me either, so i do not want to go to his wedding. but my family still think i should go, because hes family.

but for your weddng, arent you meant to invite people you care about? people who are important to you?

i hate the idea of going cause hes family, i should go cause i care about/love him, and he should invite me for them reasons too. me going would be so fake, as i know he wouldnt want me there.

my family reckon i need to go cause things will get difficult for my mum and him, but shouldnt he be grown up enough to realise that being funny with our mum cause we dont get on is silly and childish?

i dont know what to do for the best, what do you think i should do?

Adam answers:

You got an invite and he’s your brother, I think you should go…
I hope I helped

Betty asks…

What is the hardest part of being a young couple, in college, with a newborn infant?

I’m in nursing school full-time and my sweetheart attends NYU full-time. We are stressed as to how we will support a baby, but are just trying to prepare. How does a young couple support a newborn baby when both are in highly intense colleges full-time? I finish August 2011 with my RN..but the baby will be here much sooner than that. We are quite poor..and have about $8,000 left to our name. We are taking out loans for our tuition…mine is 24k/per year and his is 36k/per year. :eek:..but mine is almost done.

How are we going to support a baby and be in college for nearly 40 hours a week? I’m so scared but I cannot have another abortion. I had one due to medical risks and I really regret that..I wish I was more educated..and always think perhaps my baby would have had a chance…I really wanted my baby. Now being pregnant a second time around..I just cannot make that same choice. So we moved into his parents basement. We rent it for $900/month (which is a good deal in NYC). I am VERY frugal, so we could all get by on about $350 a month on food…probably less even..but I want to make sure we have healthy stuff too. I would breastfeed and even consider washable diapers…which I will need to take to the laundromat. I’ll make home-made baby food. We never go out..no designer stuff..never been like that..I’m not buying new clothes..we just sew our old ones…selling stuff on craigslist and stuff..but how am I possibly going to do it? Welfare simply wouldn’t be enough and I just have more pride than that if we can do it all on our own if possible. Please help..people say it can be done..but I don’t know. So tired and confused.

Adam answers:

Take it from a fellow NYC mom who was single with a newborn. Go to freecycle.org Many people give away many FREE things there. Find out if your college offers babysitting while you are in class, there are usually programs they can send you to to get funding for it. Then apply for WIC or Fan, they will give you baby formula and other foods to keep you healthy. Sign up for a parent class through NYC they usually help out with disposable diapers and other essentials. Baby food is a waste of money except when you are in a place you cannot cook. I feed my daughter finely chopped up food of whatever I’m eating. Started with mash potatoes, moved up from there. If there are issues with insurance… NYC runs clinics for vaccines, ask a pediatrician or hospital info line for the date and place. And if you are in desperate need of anything, food, diapers, etc there is always the emergency help from NYC. Good Luck!

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